Like being in joy. Like giving permission to yourself to extract joy from any situation you’re in. Even if it’s bad. Or especially if it’s bad. Joy is everywhere, you just have to let it manifest through you. Don’t resist joy. Don’t reject it.
Even in the greatest sadness there’s still some place for joy. You can’t really experience sadness if you wouldn’t be alive, didn’t you? So, enjoy your life with everything that has to offer.
Enjoy being sad as well as being happy. Enjoy your successes as well as your failures. Enjoy your new relationships as well as your separations. Enjoy your lessons even if they are not pleasant.
Beyond what you are experiencing right now, beyond your happiness or misery, there’s always a greatest gift: the gift of life. Enjoy it.
The Tiny Little Secret That Gives You Permission To Enjoy Anything
Boy I love a cheesy title every once in a while. Like the one above. Yes, I know it’s cheesy, but you know what? I decided to like it. Even more, I decided to enjoy it.
And with that, the secret – because there is a secret, the title didn’t lie – is already suggested.
Ok, let’s not waste more time on this: the secret is decision. The conscious decision to enjoy stuff. Time spent enjoying is time well spent. You can’t be really miserable if you consciously enjoy something. So, if you really want to enjoy anything, all you have to do is to decide you’re gonna do that. That’s all. That’s the secret.
I’m not saying to be delusional, to fake enjoyment when you’re hurt. Hurt happens. And it’s real. Pain is real. I’m not saying to deny it. But try to enjoy the fact that you can still feel pain. The fact that you’re still alive. After a while the pain will go away. It’s bound to be like this, everything changes. The pain, the pleasure, the sadness, the joy, all of them are going to fade away. That’s our condition on this earth.
We can’t control that. We can’t stop time in its track. We can’t freeze this second and relive it again and again and again. Time will catch us from behind and crash us, moving forward.
The only thing we can control is how we react to this change. That’s the secret, the reaction, the conscious decision we take while witnessing the change. Circumstances are blending around us and sometimes they’re perceived as good, sometimes as bad. But beyond good and bad there’s this basic pleasure, this unexplainable feeling of fulfillment that you’re still here, in the stream, existing.
As I was writing the articles for this series, I hit a few roadblocks. Sometimes I hit “publish” just a few minutes before midnight. Sometimes I had a really hard time focusing, either because I was tired, or simply not in the mood for writing. But I kept writing. I pushed forward. And you know what made me push it for 96 days in a row so far?
I decided that I will really enjoy doing this. Even when if gets tougher, even if I’m not in the mood, even if some emergency creeps in (as it was the case, not only once).
I simply decided I’m gonna enjoy this, and, believe me, I have a great time!
Running For My Life - from zero to ultramarathoner
The spooky thing about depression is that it sneaks in. There aren’t really trumpets and loud voices announcing: “Hail, hail, this is depression entering the room, all rise!” Nope. It’s slow, silent, creepy. It doesn’t even look like depression. It starts with small isolation thoughts like: “Maybe I shouldn’t get out today, I just don’t feel like going out”. And then it does the same next day. And then the day after that and so on. And then it starts to whisper louder and louder in your ears: “Why would you go outside, you loser? Didn’t have enough yet? Want more people to make fun of how much of a big, fat loser you are?”
And then you start to breath in guilt and shame, instead of air. Every breathe you take is putting more dark thoughts into your body.
Until you get stuck. You can’t move anymore. At all.
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