7 Reasons To Enjoy Life More

Too often we forget why we’re here. Caught in an endless, empty race without a real prize, we run each day trying to fulfill our own expectations, other people’s expectations, or just simply blindly following rules we don’t understand. We forgot what is the real reason of our existence: to enjoy it. To breathe life every second and thrill with it. Here’s a list of 7 simple reasons to enjoy life even in the fastest, emptiest, dullest and mindless race we chose to run.

Beginnings

Every little thing we start is a creation. A miracle by itself. Think for a second: before we activate the Universe to make it happen, there is nothing there. Picture a cup of coffee in your mind. Before you pour the water, add the brown powder and put some heat on it, there is nothing there. Separated pieces of matter, drifting around in your environment, without any intention to glue them together. It was you who changed this and manifested a cup of coffee where there was nothing before.

I am a big fan of beginnings. I am addicted to them. Every time I start something, I enjoy my creative super powers. Because there’s no need to start big, in order to enjoy your creative super powers, all you need is to start. Size has nothing to do with beginnings: even the biggest journey started with only one step. That atomic action, that infinitesimal shift in the current texture of the Universe, this incredible small intention, that is a magical thing. Putting together separated pieces of your environment and transform them into something new, that is enchanting.

Beginnings are filling us with enthusiasm, passion and eagerness. Every time we start doing something, being it a cup of coffee or a new relationship, being it a walk in the park or circling around the word, we’re using our divine, immortal persona. Just make sure you realize that next time you’re making coffee.

People You Love

You may be sad, but when they are around, you’re happy. You may be struggling with financial difficulties, but when you think at them, everything seems easy. You may  be stumbling in the darkest depression and yet, only by thinking at them, your path seem a little bit clearer. They are the people you love. They are the ones who’re making you abandon your own wishes, in an unspeakably happy surrender to something bigger than you. They are sometimes your only reason to live.

Have you thought what makes you love them? What are the reason behind your love? I hope you didn’t find the answer. Because you don’t need one. You just love them. Loving somebody is outside reason, outside logic, beyond our analytical understanding of the world. Love is our greatest mystery and the people we love are its messengers. They tend to arrive at impossible moments in our lives and destroy all the solid foundations we thought we had. Only to build new, better and stronger ones.

Life is not easy. It can pull you in different directions and suck the last drop of energy out of you. And yet, in the most desert period of your existence, you’ll still have somebody to love. The moment you stopped loving other people, you stopped loving yourself. And without love, yes, life is empty, dull and mindless.

Creating Value

You do have a talent. Something that is unique to you. It doesn’t need to follow social rules or be converted into a career. It’s just something you’re great at. Every time you do that, every time you’re performing that special talent of yours, you’re creating value. It may be just that you make people laugh. Or comfort them by speaking. Or dancing. Or writing. Something that just flows through you and reach other people almost effortless. Creating value is what gives you a sense of usefulness and presence.

I love creating value. I love mastering different skills. I love the feelings I have when something I did proves useful for somebody else. Lately, this happens on this blog. People email me and tell me they felt motivated by my writing. Sometimes, they are even old friends who almost lost contact and incidentally found me while browsing the net. Every time I have one of those moments I feel fulfilled. A deep, strong and almost explosive emotion, leaving me thrilled and filled with adrenaline.

Making yourself useful to other people is drastically underrated in our modern society. A sense of blind ego and empty performance has replaced this natural flow: it doesn’t matter how you can make people happy with what you do, but rather what you get in return. No wonder you can’t enjoy life in such a limiting mindset.

Enjoying Value Created By Other People

When was the last time you felt inspired while listening to good music? Or watching an excellent movie? Or just enjoying new, simple yet elegant clothes? Or eating out deliciously at a nice restaurant, on a magical summer evening? On any of these occasions you were enjoying value created by other people. Somebody else created that music, imagined those clothes, made that movie, prepared that dinner. Somebody else used his or her unique talent and made you feel special.

I love to enjoy value created by other people. It gives me a sense of connection and validation. I feel like I am part of something bigger. Somewhere, somehow, there is a master plan and I am part of it. I mean something. Somebody took his time and skills and imagination and created something for me. I am enriched by that thing. I am better and I feel better while enjoying it. And I am also sending my respect to the creators. Refusing this flow of good stuff that comes to me is just against nature.

Living a life of abstinence in the name of fake modesty is so frustrating. Disconnecting from other people while waiting to transcend some twisted, invisible layers of “limiting” pressure is simply stupid. I do experience some abstinence every now and then, but only as an appetizer: makes the whole thing taste so much better.

Your Current Moment

Being in the current moment is a magic experience. And like any other magic it doesn’t require more of this world, but rather less. In order to really be in the current moment, you don’t need to learn something new, but get rid of what you already know. Leave back your worries, your frustrations, your memories and just stay here. Enjoy what you see. What you feel. What you hear or touch. You are designed for this specific experience, not for worrying and stacking frustration over frustration until you crack up.

Being in the current moment doesn’t have anything to do with positive or negative emotions. Anger or joy are two faces of the same coin. Being in the current moment while you’re angry has the same result as being in the current moment while you’re joyful. Rejecting what you feel because it’s “wrong” will simply kill the current moment and replace it with some mental notion about it. Instead of living your moment, you’ll live your theoretical notion about what you “should” feel., repressing the genuine feeling. And that’s so tasteless and dead.

The current moment is the only moment you have. As fragile as it is, it has this enormous power of making you alive. Don’t suffocate it with unnecessary garbage from the past, or with volatile worries about the future. Everything you have and need is right here. Right now.

The Unexpected

One of the most popular and delusive hoaxes of all time is that life could be predictable. Life is not predictable. Life is what’s happening while you’re busy making plans. The unexpected is the key ingredient here. Trying to eliminate the unexpected in your life, making your path as safe as you can, will be the only sure proof way to die of boredom. If no challenge will be there for you, if no surprising events will shake your universe, if nothing unforeseen will pop up suddenly, then what’s left for you to do?

I used to fight against the unexpected. Especially while I had my business. Seemed the most reasonable way to manage a business. Eliminate all the possible bad outcomes and wait for the good ones to manifest. Sadly, it didn’t worked out. Apparently, the only way to enjoy a steady and healthy growth for my business was to embrace the unexpected and take advantage of it in every way I can. Without the unpredictable changes in the market, I wouldn’t have any growth whatsoever.

While I don’t reject a solid preparation for starting your days, I don’t think this by itself will eliminate the unexpected in your life. Fortunately. Being prepared when the unpredictable happens is something completely different than rejecting it. So much better to be hit by a wave, and enjoy it, rather than pretend the sea is still.

Endings

What goes up, must come down. Every beginning has an end. And I find as much thrill and joy of life in a healthy ending as I find in a genuine beginning. Every ending is a confirmation that what’s started has reached its maturity. The purpose have been fulfilled. It’s not the ending in itself that causes suffering, it’s the attachment. Yes, pain is unavoidable, but suffering is optional. Most of the time, though, I find out endings are not painful at all. They’re most like reaching the top of a mountain: you did it, now go down and start another one.

People try to make things last for unbelievably long periods of time. It’s an unconscious attempt to beat time. What a waste of resources. Time allows us to exist, how can you think to beat something that allows you to be. It’s a contradiction in terms. You can’t beat your own context, you’re in it. For instance, people are struggling to make their relationships last longer. Longer than what? Every thing has a purpose, if the purpose has been reached, it’s time for a new beginning. Enjoy the ending and let go.

If you don’t allow endings, you’re blocking other things form manifestation. Making something last more than its original intention will just hurt everybody. Enjoy the end and welcome a new beginning. Like this blog post. It’s over now. Time for you to start something new. 🙂



Dragos Roua

The guy who started all this. Entrepreneur, ultra-marathoner, tanguero, father and risk taker. I'm blogging here, but I also spend a lot of time in this marvelous space.. You're invited, by the way.

This Post Has 33 Comments

  1. Heya Dragos!

    What a great post to start off the week!
    Life is the most amazing thing we have. Every day is a gift and an opportunity to start a new adventure or correct a past mistake. Smile, Live, Enjoy!

    Thanks for sharing!
    .-= Diggy – Upgradereality.com´s last blog ..The Millionaire Mindset =-.

    1. Well, Diggy

      That’s certainly a very enthusiastic comment to respond with 🙂 Yes, we do have the opportunities to start a new adventure or correct a past mistake. All we have to do is to spot them and act on them.

      Thanks for your comment 🙂

  2. Hi Dragos,

    Another post full of wisdom.

    “The current moment is the only moment you have. As fragile as it is, it has this enormous power of making you alive. Don’t suffocate it with unnecessary garbage from the past, or with volatile worries about the future. Everything you have and need is right here. Right now.”

    Exactly what I needed to read at this moment. Thanks. 🙂
    .-= Marko´s last blog ..Baroque or Not? The Adagio in G Minor Mystery =-.

  3. Beginnings, endings, yesss. This makes me realize we can find value and pleasure in a lot of things, if we know how to look at them. Thus, enjoy life more.

    Eduard
    .-= Ideas With A Kick´s last blog ..Personal development readers vs. personal development doers =-.

  4. I really enjoyed reading this. Your ideas about holding on to relationships were very powerful for me. That and the idea that pain is unavoidable but suffering is optional. It´s the attachment that causes the suffering. I´m going to have to think about this one for a while because it´s very complex. Should we not become attached? What would this mean?
    .-= Carmen´s last blog ..Meet the Nomads – Dan Madera – A Nomad Chooses a Home =-.

    1. Attachment is rooted in fear: fear of losing something. This is what causes suffering. I did not invented this, it’s a fundamental part of buddhism and taoism.

    1. Yeap. Many of them. They strive to have a career, money, stuff. Thus, enjoying life less. (I know you pointed the title here, but yes, the title is connected with the post).

  5. Hey Dragos.

    You’ve hit on some of the great things we are able to see and take part in.

    Beginnings sure do lead to creation of something, like that coffee example you bring up, and the beginnings are the part where we have the most energy. We usually let that energy subside after a while, but this is not a requirement.

    Creating and sharing value is something I sure just take as normal, but am glad that it occurs all the time. Other people create things, and sometimes it is very doable to team up with them or interact with them in some way regarding their creation. This is where you feel like you are one of the few that they are supposed to be linking up with, like a drummer with a new drum pattern that meets a guitarist who likes it, or an accountant who meets a computer programmer that has an idea to improve their accounting system.

    I don’t think I normally enjoy endings, but sometimes I am able to see them as they occur, and deal with them smoothly. Beating time sure is hard.

    Thanks for putting this out there.
    .-= Armen Shirvanian´s last blog ..Knowledge Is Your Best Friend =-.

    1. Thanks for commenting, Armen. I can really see your point about people working together and sharing value. Been there, done that, will do it again for sure 🙂

  6. Fantastic message as always Dragos. You always know how to put a smile on my face. Mindfulness is key to enjoying life, and we always could use a reminder. As often as possible actually…so keep it coming 😀
    .-= Amber´s last blog ..Treat Your Feet =-.

  7. Awesome telling of things to be mindful. Our lives are often a cycle, and we neglect to come back to mindsets we need in life, to find balance. great words!
    .-= Robert´s last blog ..The Life Design Project | Resources for Freedom =-.

  8. Hi Dragos, this was an excellent article. Well done and I agree with almost all of it. There is one thing though that I don’t quite agree with.

    “Loving somebody is outside reason, outside logic, beyond our analytical understanding of the world.”

    That may make it seem more magical and mysterious, but I don’t think love is outside our ability to understand.

    The sections on creating value, enjoying value, the unexpected, and the ending were particularly good. Great jobQ
    .-= Stephen – Rat Race Trap´s last blog ..Should You Trust Your Intuition? – Part II =-.

    1. I guess I perceive love at something that doesn’t need analytical validation. I don’t need reasons to love somebody, I just love that person the way she is. Living with her, doing things together, that requires a lot of my analytical capacities, but just being in love doesn’t need any thinking. At least from my part 🙂

  9. Hey Dragos,

    Very timely post for me. Thank you for your insight. Beginnings are always exciting. And easy to forget that something as simple as a cup of coffee is our creating (and I create a lot of those each day, lol)

    Ending can be sad, but it’s important to realize like you said whatever is ending is doing so only because it has fulfilled what it’s purpose has been. When you look at ending in that light, they can be very beautiful.
    .-= Heather Masson´s last blog ..Sorry that I’m away right now. =-.

  10. […] Don’t enjoy because joy is a silly way to behave. There are people who are making a living out of rejecting joy. Because it’s a useless emotion. Because it could make you vulnerable. Yes, it will make you vulnerable. But being vulnerable is the only way to really experiment life in all its dimensions. Life is not safe. But it’s full of joy. […]

  11. […] Don’t enjoy because joy is a silly way to behave. There are people who are making a living out of rejecting joy. Because it’s a useless emotion. Because it could make you vulnerable. Yes, it will make you vulnerable. But being vulnerable is the only way to really experiment life in all its dimensions. Life is not safe. But it’s full of joy. […]

  12. Hey, you used to write wonderful, but the last few posts have been kinda boring… I miss your great writings. Past few posts are just a little out of track! come on!

  13. Hi dragos,
    i would like to share with you that i have recently been a great fan of begginings, i spent my life being frustrated about each and every ending that passed. but recently i have learned to start over more ready and healthy. and this only made the whole new journey till its end more enjoyable. I just discovered your blog and i will continue visiting it in the future.

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