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Effective help requires clarity about what you actually need. Teaching people how to help you transforms good intentions into meaningful support
Building addTaskManager, the best iOS productivity app for ADHD minds
Effective help requires clarity about what you actually need. Teaching people how to help you transforms good intentions into meaningful support
Money conversations reveal core beliefs about value, security, and freedom. Video dialogue exploring money's real function beyond mere transactions
Existential freedom emerges when you realize life has no inherent meaning. The absence of cosmic purpose creates space for personal meaning-making
Digital tool stacks evolve with changing needs. Nine years of experimentation reveals which tools survive and why most eventually get abandoned
As of today I'm starting a new experiment. I want to provide, apart from regular blog posts, videos.
Birthday runs create physical markers of time passing. Running one kilometer per year of life transforms aging from burden into celebration
Consistency beats intensity every time. The apple pile metaphor reveals why daily small actions compound while sporadic heroics fade into nothing
64 kilometers through Transylvania tested preparation against reality. The Transmaraton race report chronicles what happens when theory meets mountain trails
Pickup tactics optimize for quantity over quality. Meaningful relationships require different strategies—attraction beats pursuit when building real connection
Compulsive helping destroys helpers and those they try to help. Three psychological traps that turn good intentions into destructive codependency
Fear creates imagined dangers from harmless reality. The ancient Buddhist parable reveals how perception generates suffering from nothing
Running changes bodies but transformation photographs miss the real story. Weight loss happens between photos—in daily decisions nobody sees
Operating blindfolded reveals how much we depend on assumptions versus direct perception. Removing sight amplifies everything else—here's what emerges
222 kilometers non-stop around Lake Balaton—the aftermath reveals what ultramarathons do to body and mind. Recovery tells the race's real story
Fifth of five marathons—exhaustion versus determination in darkness. The final 42km where mental strength becomes the only fuel remaining
Fourth marathon of five—body breaking down, mind negotiating whether to continue. The psychological warfare that defines ultra-distance running
Third marathon brings reckoning—optimism fades, reality solidifies. Understanding you're only halfway triggers the real mental battle
Second marathon meets exhaustion approaching. Confidence from first marathon collides with accumulating fatigue—the pattern emerges clearly
First of five marathons—starting strong before reality hits. Initial optimism masks the distance ahead—naivety serves as temporary fuel
Preparing for 220km ultra-marathon reveals planning's limits. Training strategies, gear selection, mental frameworks—readiness illusion before reality strikes